Tuesday, October 31, 2017

The Violet Flame & Twin Flames!



A violet flame is a fire that burns a brilliant, harmonious light and is capable of clearing and alchemising the negative energy we harbour.

The flame translates the negativity into a calm and positive energy that vibrates highly and flows freely. A violet flame is a loving, accepting, forgiving and highly intelligent flame. It is capable of transforming us by providing us with a very powerful and unique spiritual energy that will enhance all aspects of our lives.

The colour violet has the highest frequency of all seven colours on the visual spectrum and it cleanses the system of all our toxic emotional, mental, spiritual and physical blockages.

The flame heals old wounds, clears the karma of past mistakes, erases painful memories and frees us from the heavy emotional baggage we have been carrying around.

We all have an electromagnetic field that surrounds us and we vibrate on different frequencies depending on our current mental, emotional, spiritual and physical state. Our vibrations send out colours, which can be seen in the form of auras.

The colours of our aura solely depend on what is happening within our conscious and sub-conscious minds.

When two people are radiating a violet light and they meet with their twin flame they will engage in an intense, magnetizing and indestructible relationship.

We can have many soul mate relationships with anyone from strangers to lovers, however, we will only ever have one twin flame connection. This is because twin flames share the same cosmic or energetic blueprint as one another.

A twin flame connection is one that offers the purest form of love we will ever experience. The reason for this is that the love arises from absolute unconditional love.

Twin flames have ancient history together, so the instant they meet there will be an intense attraction like no other. There is no mistaking the connection when it occurs. Memories will come flooding back as we try to piece together how we “know” the other person. As soon as the first encounter with a twin flame takes place we will feel a huge shift happening and this is the beginning of a major transformation.

This “knowing” feeling that is indescribable is what keeps us entwined with our twin flame and we will feel as though two intricate pieces of a puzzle have perfectly slotted together.

Although the connection will feel immensely comfortable, it will also cause friction as we are constantly pushed to become the highest version of ourselves possible when we are in their company. It is like looking through the clearest mirror and we may not always like what is being reflected back—however, we will still be compelled to look.

The bonding will not be one where two halves become one, it will be a relationship whereby both are able to be the complete version of their true selves and nothing and no one will have the strength or ability to rock or cause cracks in their foundation.

Twin flames are able to stay bonded through thick and thin and will never cosmically sway too far from one another even if they are not always able to exist side-by-side. When they have reached a point whereby they are radiating this violet light all the obstacles that have been in the way to prevent this connection will fall by the wayside and from there on the relationship will be unstoppable.

The main thing that prevents us from having a deep and powerful twin flame relationship is the energy that we are holding onto from past or current painful experiences. By working with the violet flame we can eradicate all karmic energy and past memories that we are holding onto.

Twin flames that are radiating a violet flame are not co-dependent in any way. They are entirely free to live their life as they choose to, knowing their partner fully accepts, nourishes and supports the paths they desire to roam. Within this relationship it may look to an outsider that these two lives are lived as though they are “single” people as there are no boundaries, rules or regulations that either one has to abide by.

The reason these relationships work without conditions is that both individuals have high levels of integrity, are accountable for their errors and they are radiating with pure love. This love is not just for the other person it is for the whole of humanity, the world they live in and ultimately for themselves.

A burning violet flame sends a glowing, healing wave of energy out into the universe. There are no judgements cast out to others and they hold no resentments for any other ways of life that do not fall in line with their own. Their minds are opened fully so that they see beyond what lies in front of them and this enables them to see all sides of the sphere rather than choosing a limited view.

Within themselves and also their relationship they are able to find the balance between the darkness and light and they are not afraid to accept what lies on either side. Twin flame connections are aware that as human beings we are often too afraid to expose the truth of ourselves to one another.

We all make mistakes and we all have flaws, and in a twin flame relationship the beautiful and ugly are loved and accepted equally so that both people can open up their souls and have the privilege of viewing what lies at the core. This means they are privy to the truest form of love possible as they embrace the reality of the other person, not an illusion they have been tricked into seeing.

The most difficult lesson that twin flames face is the one of unconditional love. This is often why twin flames do not always remain together if they are not radiating with a violet light. If either one has not prepared enough for the connection they will drift in and out of each others lives, although, they will still have a profound sense of togetherness, however far apart they may be.

There will also be a battle with the ego and this is one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome. A twin flame will reflect everything back to us and show us parts of ourselves we may not feel ready to embrace.

We may question if we are advanced enough to be able to deal with this relationship in our lives, as often it will cause us more internal friction that we think we are cable of handling. This is again where the violet light comes into play, as this will help us reach a place of self-love, a higher sense of self-worth and when we reach these things we will find an acceptance for those around us too.

Our twin flame will keep presenting themselves to us time and again until the violet flame has transformed our energy to pulsate on a frequency so we are vibrating at the highest level. Basically, when we have done the work necessary to attract a twin flame we will be emotionally and spiritually ready to fully and intimately connect with our twin flame.

The love between twin flames is not essentially a romantic love, it is the greatest opportunity we will be given to develop personal growth. This being said though, twin flames do not exist for purely a personal benefit. The universe unites twin flames for a divine purpose, which is a selfless one to be of service to others.

The magnetisation of these two souls will bring together two rays of light, so they are able to beam a pure and radiant glow out into the world. The union will teach those around them about loving unconditionally and selflessly and also about letting go of all resentments through learning to forgive and accept.

Whether the mission of these two souls is to help to create a more sustainable world to live in, to reduce suffering of all living creatures or to teach others about ultimate soul growth, the message will be one that is necessary for the evolution of human beings on a mass scale.

All that it takes is for our energetic vibrations to alter so that we are in a position to attract that once in a lifetime partner. We can then embark on a magical adventure that will work hard to match our own fire to the fire that is raging in our twin flame.

Once our flames connect we can carve a unique path by burning through all negativity. This means that our lights will shine brightly enough so that we recognise one another immediately when we eventually move onto the next life.

By setting aside a small amount of time each day, even if it is just for five minutes, we can change our frequency to help to achieve a violet flame.

When we choose a mantra and speak it out loud it helps to alter our frequency and it also assists with manifesting the changes we seek.

To invoke a violet flame a simple mantra such as, “I am present, I am a violet light,” or, “I welcome the violet light into my life.”

As we ask for a violet light we must also be willing to offer it all of the pent up emotions of frustration, anger and resentment we have been feeling. By opening up our heart and accepting the light, we must also surrender to it and flush away all impurities and toxins that have been seeping into us.

We can repeat this mantra as many times as we feel we need to and as often throughout the day as we would like. It is important that the mantra is spoken out loud (through the throat chakra) as our voices are powerful vibrational tools that are capable of changing our frequency.

A visualisation helps when repeating the mantra. If we close our eyes we can imagine a pure violet ray of light burning from within and emanating from us. We can imagine that the flame is burning through any negativity that we bring in to the mantra so that we destroy all thoughts of anger or fear and replace them with ones of love and peace.

Initially it can be painful to uncover and expose certain past memories, however, if we imagine that we have sealed our aura with a healing white and blue protective shield, we can avoid the darkness penetrating and negatively affecting our light.

We can use a mantra anytime we are feeling stressed or angry, or just allow them to become a ritual that takes place each morning before we begin the day. The more often the mantra is repeated, the more powerful it will be in working its magic.




Monday, October 23, 2017

Twin Flames & God!


The meeting with our twin flame is in many ways an invitation from God to re-establish this personal relationship since it offers not only the potential for self-realization but also for the realization of God. Just like the twin flame reunion first happens in consciousness before a physical reunion of the two human forms of the One-Soul can happen, the union with God is a prerequisite of our lasting union with our twin flame, to be realized through the process of surrender.

To truly start to yearn for God, God must at some point give us a glimpse of His sublime existence. The predestined meeting of the twin flames happens for the very purpose of igniting this longing within both; however we rarely realize that it is God that we are in longing for and instead associate all our longing and love with our twin flame. When we seek to know God in this way (initially disguised as a longing for our twin flame) this progressively expands the consciousness of the two souls. Furthermore, the strong bonding this creates between the twin flame couple guarantees the accomplishment of the spiritual purpose behind the meeting regardless of whether the twins are outwardly ready to complete the work or not.

Part of this expansion is the humble realization that our Twin flame was sent to us by God to challenge us and to awaken us so that our One-soul could be guided back into its original state of Oneness. In the spiritual realms, the twins work together towards achieving this goal, however on the physical plane it takes a certain level of spiritual maturity to be able to discern the intricate way in which God and the twin flames themselves guide each other by using the mirror effect as a tool for triggering and healing. As such, the physical plane is only ever a reflection of what God needs the two embodiments of the One-Soul to do in order to better serve the union and the shared mission to bring divine love from the spiritual realms into earth.

In the same way that being a twin flame provides us with a vehicle of transcendence and ultimately ascension rather than a guarantee of romantic bliss on earth, the source of the immense love that we see reflected in our twin flame can only be found by seeking within; since searching for the love that heals the world in the world which is the result of the illusion of separation only creates more illusions. Only pure unconditional love can elevate us and purify our heart in preparation for the ascension back to God. As part of the process we must come to realize our own wholeness and our own perfection because if we don’t, we remain unable to accept the very love that we crave, since the love that we are able to accept directly equates to the love that we are able to give our self.


Credit to:

Shannon Cantrell – TwinFlame – The Unconditional Love FB 


Sunday, October 8, 2017

Monday, October 2, 2017

Deepest Sympathy to the victims of the Las Vegas Shooting!




My thoughts and prayers go to the victims of the Las Vegas shooting which took place on Sunday, 01/10/2017.  May the Lord give you strength and healing during this very sad and tragic time. 


Dear Father,

Please be wrap your arms of comfort around those who are grieving and who are hurting! 
May your Love be their comfort and your Spirit be their strength..
Send your love and peace upon our very troubled World.
We thank you and give your praise.

Amen!






Friday, September 8, 2017

When You say I love You!





Like the sound of silence calling,
I hear your voice and suddenly
I'm falling, lost in a dream.
Like the echoes of our souls are meeting,
You say those words and my heart stops beating.
I wonder what it means.
What could it be that comes over me?
At times I can't move.
At times I can hardly breathe.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there's no one else alive

You're the one I've always thought of.
I don't know how, but I feel sheltered in your love.
You're where I belong.
And when you're with me if I close my eyes,
There are times I swear I feel like I can fly
For a moment in time.
Somewhere between the Heavens and Earth ,
And frozen in time, Oh when you say those words.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there's no one else alive

And this journey that we're on.
How far we've come and I celebrate every moment.
And when you say you love me,
That's all you have to say.
I'll always feel this way.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
In that moment,I know why I'm alive

When you say you love me.
When you say you love me.
Do you know how I love you?




Listen!





Thursday, September 7, 2017

A Prayer for Protection against Hurricane Irma!


Holy Father, in the name of our Lord Jesus,

We come before you with a humble heart and we ask you to protect your children and your planet against the wrath of hurricane Irma who is passing across our planet right now. 

Please have mercy!

May your love and light shield everyone and everything that is in its destructive path!

We pray for all our brethren who have been affected by its destruction and for those who have also suffered loss by hurricane Harvey. 

We ask you to heal and restore their lives completely.

We place our faith and trust in you.

We thank you Holy Father for your love and mercy.

We give you thanks and praise that our prayers have been heard.


Amen!


Sunday, August 27, 2017

A Love Beyond Words – Twin Flames!



“Love is just love it can never be explained!”


Mind of my mind,
Connect with me my beloved TwinMind for we are of one divine consciousness.
We are connected to all that there is. 
Your thoughts are my thoughts, your emotions and feelings are everything which I experience.
Over great distances we are able to connect as OneMind, this gift of telepathy which is part of our DNA, You and Me.

Heart of my heart,
Feel the rhythm and beat of our TwinFlame heart as it dances together in love and unison.
Feel our TwinFlame heart expanding bigger and bigger; higher and higher with love as it radiates outward and upward into the Universe as a healing light for all of creation to experience.

Dearly beloved,
Can you feel our love becoming deeper and deeper for each other in every beating moment? I do my dear … it’s fathomless!

Soul of my soul,
I kiss You my beautiful TwinSoul with deep passionate and unconditional love. 
Do you feel this sea of love energy as we merge, flow and sing together as One Soul?

My physical body vibrates as your love energy swims up through my body and enters my heart centre.  Our heart is filled with an orgasm of love.

Do you feel me as I feel you?

Beloved TwinSoul,
I ask your permission to join me in this mission together as one, to be a shining example for others to follow.  May our graceful actions demonstrate unconditional love, forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, respect, honour, wisdom and freedom. 

Once again I ask you my beloved TwinSoul (with your permission of course, for I cannot impose against your freewill and likewise), that we tackle our mission with great conviction and, courage.

My dear let us humbly bow together before our Divine Creator and give thanks for this incredible honour and magnificent gift of TwinFlame love which has been given to us.  

Dear one, our TwinLove is Universal and it is a testament of The Creator’s unconditional love for all of Creation.

How I love you with all that I am dearest one.  No other love will do.

I love, support and accept you as you love, support and accept me with all of my imperfections with unconditional love.

Our love fills me with peace, freedom and joy.

We are Love, We are One, We are Free, We are Peace and We are Joy.

In this Divine Love with You I have found my resting place; You are my stillness, You are my safe haven and You are my eternal love.

You are Me and I Am You.

What more can I say to you? 

Only this …
I love you beyond words!

“Ah God, You sent him to me knowing that I would love him beyond reason!”




© 2017 Debra Heylen All rights Reserved.


Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Deepest Sympathy Manchester, UK!



My deepest sympathy to all of those who lost their precious loved ones and have been affected by the evil atrocity which was carried out in Manchester, UK on the 22 May 2017.

I send you love and comfort and hope that you will find the strength to help you to heal and carry on with courage through this very sad and tragic time.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

To those precious ones that passed away tragically may you R.I.P. in the arms of the Divine Light and Comfort of God for eternity.


Dear Father,

 I kneel before you and I ask that you will give all those who have suffered such pain, loss and suffering, love and comfort.  I feel so much pain for them Holy Father. Please hold and keep each and every one in your white scintillating light of protection and love.  Heal the broken hearted with your warm comfort.  Please strengthen their hope and faith in you so that they can carry on during this difficult time of their suffering.

Father I pray that your love and goodness prevail upon our Earth and that all evilness and negativity which sweeps over our Earth, be obliterated forever.

SO BE IT!

AMEN!!!











Saturday, April 29, 2017

The Kundalini Awakening and Twin Flame Energy!





Facts You Must Know?
Everyone has a chakra system. Our chakra is our energy center and the energy that runs through it is called the kundalini. 

But, the question remains – what is the kundalini awakening and twin flames energy?
Here’s what you need to know – whenever twin flames connect for the first time and spend time together, they feel the sensational bolts of energy run through them. They feel the energy centers heat up. This is one of the true twin flame connection. And yes, when twin flames meet – their chakras can activate and it feels like awakening. But, now you probably ask yourself – what if my chakras didn’t activate? Some they if your chakras don’t activate then you have not met your twin flame, which is untrue.
Well, first of all, you should know that there are many reasons why your kundalini energy won’t flow through. First being not everyone has balanced chakras, in fact everyone has some of their chakras underactive or overactive even worse blocked, for kundalini to flow we need balanced chakras, however your chakras will still activate. It is important for twin flames to heal together and go through the purification process, we know in our soul when we meet our twin flame, the soul recognition is more important than bodily energies.
And, you should also know that the chakra activation is one of the symptoms of twin flame soul recognition. We know that twin flames share the same soul signature and blue print. They are the two important patterns that help twin flames recognize each other. The chakra and kundalini activation is just one of the steps to a twin flame connection. When twin flames meet the chakra centers pull them closer to each other, this pull is even felt when you are thinking of your partner, it won’t matter how far away they are. Now you have probably read stories of people meeting their twin flame and this magnetic pull is very apparent.
Twin flames – it’s very important to have the kundalini running through the energy centers, because this energy has the power to purify and clear congestions that may take place in our chakras. Everyone has chakras that are either blocked or unbalanced; however the kundalini energy may still flow through your chakras. When your chakras are clear of congestions kundalini can flow freely. So it’s very important when the activation or awakening starts, as unwanted feelings and behaviors may emerge. Unwanted feelings like remembering pain again of the past, until you have dealt with them and healed up from the pain, you can’t be near or with your twin flame.
Bottom line – we now know that kundalini awakening and twin flames activation is one of the recognition process and there are many others you may recognize. Each of us have different experience meeting our twin flame, what’s true for one may not be for someone else. 


Courtesy of: Spiritual Unite
Many thanks.





Friday, April 14, 2017

When God Whispers Your Name!




“It is now that I must make a choice. Because of Calvary, I’m free to choose. And so I choose. I choose love . . . No occasion justifies hatred; no injustice warrants bitterness. I choose love. Today I will love God and what God loves. I choose joy . . . I will invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse the temptation to be cynical . . . the tool of the lazy thinker. I will refuse to see people as anything less than human beings, created by God. I will refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God. I choose peace . . . I will live forgiven. I will forgive so that I may live. I choose patience . . . I will overlook the inconveniences of the world. Instead of cursing the one who takes my place, I’ll invite him to do so. Rather than complain that the wait is too long, I will thank God for a moment to pray. Instead of clinching my fist at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage. I choose kindness . . . I will be kind to the poor, for they are alone. Kind to the rich, for they are afraid. And kind to the unkind, for such is how God has treated me. I choose goodness . . . I will go without a dollar before I take a dishonest one. I will be overlooked before I will boast. I will confess before I will accuse. I choose goodness. I choose faithfulness . . . Today I will keep my promises. My debtors will not regret their trust. My associates will not question my word. My wife will not question my love. And my children will never fear that their father will not come home. I choose gentleness . . . Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raise my voice may it be only in praise. If I clench my fist, may it be only in prayer. If I make a demand, may it be only of myself. I choose self-control . . . I am a spiritual being. After this body is dead, my spirit will soar. I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I choose self-control. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek his grace. And then, when this day is done, I will place my head on my pillow and rest.”



― Max Lucado, When God Whispers Your Name


May the love, peace and light of the Living Christ shine upon you always. 




Wishing you a blessed Easter!  



Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Unlock the Locket!



Everyone is searching for that “Holy Grail” which offers us a fulfilled life! 

The fact is we carry the “Holy Grail” within us; the Soul!  The soul is love, joy, peace, happiness, grace, forgiveness, abundance and knowledge. 

The soul is one with God and all of creation, humanity and the Universe.

Whatever we feel, think and do, these are absorbed into the consciousness of the Universe and whatever is emitted from the Universe is directly relayed back to us.  Therefore, if our feelings, thoughts and actions are absorbed into the consciousness of the Universe, it is in our own best interests as a collective humanity that we  pay particular attention to what thoughts, words and actions we emit into the atmosphere.

As we are one with our Creator, every thought, word, emotion and action we promote vibrates across the Universe creating whatever we wish and that in turn is relayed back to ourselves and our planet.

When we are able to connect to the heart of God (our Soul) within, then we will be given the means and ability to disconnect from our intellectual minds which promotes separateness from ourselves and God.  

Within ourselves we will be able to find our Beloved, the One and Only, the One of Unconditional Love, Joy, Peace, Happiness, Grace, Abundance and Knowledge.  What a blissful discovery it is. 

Nothing compares to the comforting love of our soul and God.  

In order to reconnect with our Soul (our Authentic-Self, Our Beloved, Our God and Creator) we must still our minds, find our peace, sit in silence and focus on the love of Our Beloved and then the overflowing of all these wonderful treasures will be discovered within us.

A good way to send love and healing out into the Universe is to sit in a quiet place, settle the mind and meditate on love.  If you cannot focus on love, focus on the feeling that love gives you e.g., joy, peace, comfort, security and happiness.  It might be easier for you to focus on the love you have for your spouse, your child, your precious pet, your twin flame,  or a piece of art or nature.  Whatever fills you with wonderful and positive feelings or emotions and vibrations is what you ought to focus on.  Once you feel this love in your heart centre then send it out into the Universe in thought forms or words; with your intentions for the healing of our planet and for the blessings of mankind.  This is a powerful way of clearing and healing yourself and the world. 

Remember whatever you sow you reap.  This is your reward be it positive or negative.

Unlock the locket within the centre of your being; this is where the “Holy Grail” is.  This is your precious soul; the heart of God. 

Love your soul and you will be loving God and you will delight the heart of God which in turn blesses your soul with the treasures of heaven. 

Your Soul is your Utopia and your bliss.

Love, Light and blessings.




© 2017 Debra Heylen All rights Reserved.


Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Happy Valentines Day - Twin Flames!



I wait for you.

Like a messianic prophecy
 that will someday come true.

We existed together
 before creation of the universe,
 somewhere beyond ideas of time,
 space and matter.

Elements we became,
 stardust fallen from the heavens,
 risen upon earth
 in beautiful skin and bone.

Separate we are,
 histories of our own,
 yet sharing a dream
 that sometimes seems
 too far-fetched to understand.

I search for you.
Like mystics possessed by longing
 for unity with God.

Deep in the city of my soul,
 walking through the remains
 of shattered dreams
 and haunted memories,
 the cold stare of phantoms
 remind me of the battles
 that were fought,
 all of the pain and agony
 that was endured.

There are whispers here
 amongst the dark ruins,
 voices that speak of the One,
 a companion who will come
 fulfilling a truth forgotten.

The roses I find in the dark
 are signs of your presence,
 I have not seen your face,
 but I know you are here,
 existing within me,
 where I am also
 within you.

Our souls overlapping,
 walking, sometimes racing
 towards one another;
 journey onward, say the voices,
 across the oceans,
 the fields, the mountains.
 Reunion is close,
 slowly coming into view
 like darkness fading to dawn.
 Don’t give up, friend,
 follow the signs
 for they are rays of light
 cast from the Beloved.

I breathe with you
 and you with me,
 reciting holy verses
 to bridge distanced hearts,
 like poetry we are,
 music in perfect harmony;
 Believe –
 meld your flame with mine,
 we’ll make a firestorm together,
 fierce and passionate
 like strokes of lightning,
 flashing in their wild splendor,
 lighting up the skies
 for all eyes to see;
 and like bursts of hot energy
 shooting beams of fiery light,
 we’ll strike the earth,
 burning and melting the illusions
 to set our prisoner-selves free.

We’ll wake from this dream-world,
 and become crowned
 on the throne of Love
 in our transcendent reality.
 We’ll enter the garden
 and become whole again,
 lit by the torch of Angels,
 shining ablaze in our immortality.

Feel this union in meditation,
 in a place where separation fades away;
 only you can understand this magic
 that drives the journey through.

Know that when I dance for God,
 I am also dancing for you.


~ Jehanzeb ~




Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Evolutionary Relationships: The Seven Requirements Of Love!


An Excerpt From “Evolutionary Love Relationships: Passion, Authenticity,and Activism“

By Andrew Harvey

It is critical to remember that this crisis we are facing is a crisis in which the sacred powers of love in the human soul are being diverted by distraction, by greed, by ignorance, by the pursuit of power, so that they never irrigate the world and transform it. What is needed is a vision of evolutionary relationship as a relationship that helps us come into the real, take responsibility for it, and enact our sacred purpose with a partner, and for the world: when two lovers come together in this dynamic love consciousness, they create a transformative field of sacred energy, from which both can feed to inspire their work in reality.

There are seven requirements necessary, I believe, for this tremendously potent vision of evolutionary love to emerge in the world.

The first requirement is that both beings need to be plunged individually into a deep and passionate devotion of the Beloved, by whatever name they know the Beloved, because without both beings centering their life in God, the relationship will never be able to escape the private circle. From the very beginning it must be centered in the Divine. It must be a relationship that is undertaken in the conscious presence of the Divine for the Divine’s great work in the Universe. Only a relationship that is centered in God, and that has God as the prime actor in the relationship, will be able to bear the vicissitudes of authentic love, of dealing with the challenges of life and service in the world.

The second requirement for an evolutionary love is that both beings must develop a mastery of solitude. In his Letters to a Young Poet, Rilke wrote:

“Authentic love is where two solitudes border, protect, and salute each other.”
They “border” each other, they don’t infiltrate each other’s domain. They “protect” because they realize that the solitude that each one has is the source of inner wealth and inner revelation; they “salute” because they understand that the work of solitude, the work that goes into solitude, the heart work, the yearning, the longing, the deep contemplation of one’s gifts and one’s faults, is a sacred work that is the secret foundation of healthy relationship. In too many relationships in our current narcissistic model, what threatens the person most is the solitude of the other. In a true evolutionary relationship, what can exhilarate one person the most is the other’s solitude, because they know that solitude has the potential to make them a billionaire of generosity, of insight, and of creativity.

The third requirement is that in a true evolutionary relationship there is an equality of power, and that equality is born out of a profound experience of the sacredness and dignity of the other person’s soul. This new relationship that is trying to be given to us by the Mother is what I call the beloved-beloved relationship. One person isn’t the beloved and the other only the lover. Both partners recognize in each other the unique face that God is turning to them in order to bring them the essence of divine truth, which is embodied love. From that recognition of each other as the Beloved flows a natural movement of passionate honoring and service of the other’s life. This gives each person the freedom and the energy and the joy that they need to go out into the world and fulfill their destiny. This is crucial because in the past there has been a vision of inequality of power.

The male has often had the power and the female hasn’t. Dominant and submissive roles between two people have been seen as inevitable.

Now what’s emerging is the mutual recognition of holiness and sacredness expressed in tantric rapture, in an adoration and worship of the other in the core of life.

The fourth requirement follows on from the third: if you are going to have a beloved-beloved relationship, you have to center your whole being and work and evolution in God. You have to be a master of your own solitude so that you can work on what is necessary to deepen that sacred relationship of the Divine. You must also bring the sacred practice of prayer and meditation into the very core of your life, so that the whole relationship can be enfolded in a mutually shared sacred enterprise.

The fifth requirement is that both lovers completely abandon any Hollywood sentimentality about what relationships actually are. As love becomes more evolutionary and conscious, so does each lover’s understanding of each other’s shadow. One of the essential roles of this new love is to make each person in the relationship the safe-guarder of the other’s shadow—not the judge of the other’s shadow, not the denier of the other’s shadow, but someone who recognizes where the other has been wounded, and safeguards and protects them with unconditional compassion without allowing themselves to be mauled or manipulated by the other. This takes an immense effort, because it takes an immense effort to understand your own shadow, and an even greater effort to face and comprehend, without illusion, denial or repulsion, the shadow of the other.

The sixth requirement is that if you are going to enter into the evolutionary process, you have to accept that it never ends, never stops unfolding.

There is no end to transformation, because divine love is infinite.
Evolution is fundamentally a death/rebirth cycle that repeats itself in higher and higher dimensions, and any authentic evolutionary relationship must have the courage to go through the deaths that engender the rebirths. Marion Woodman, the great Jungian analyst and pioneer of the sacred feminine, said to me, “I have had four marriages with my husband, and at the end of each marriage there was a crisis that we had to make the commitment to go through, a projection that had to die. But we stuck at it and we went through it, and the love that we know now in our eighties is the greatest and deepest love we have experienced.”

The seventh principle requirement is that from the very beginning of this adventure into evolutionary love you must make the commitment for it not to be just a personal orgy, a cultivation of an oasis of private pleasure. You must engage consciously in this relationship to make you stronger, to serve the planet, to recognize that it is a relationship not only grounded in God, not only infused by sacred practice, but it is from the very beginning dedicated to making both people more powerful, more reflective, more passionately engaged with the only serious truth of our time: The world is dying, and we need a major revolution of the heart to empower everyone to step forward and start doing the work of reconstruction and re-creation that is now desperately needed.

Andrew is the author of The Hope, Play Life More Beautifully and Evolutionary Love Relationships: Passion, Authenticity,and Activism.





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